The development of healthy children is greatly affected by self-esteem. Children with high self-esteem become more successful later on in life and the ones with low self-esteem suffer throughout their lives. The responsibility of a child’s self esteem greatly depends on the parents who nurture it. There’s so much that a parent can do to make a child more confident and competent. Children with high self esteem have a strong emotional ability to face failures and have the courage to try again until they succeed. While the kids with low self-esteem are negative when they make mistakes. They blame themselves for the failure and refuse to try again.
Use the following methods to help your child feel good about themselves:
1. Show unconditional love to your child. Your children should believe that you love them and will be there for them at all times even if they fail. Always consider the effect of your own attitude on a child’s self-esteem. If a parent shows love only if the child succeeds and is critical when the child fails, it will put an enormous pressure on the child and their self-esteem.
2. Help your child to set achievable goals and support your child when they set these goals. The best way you can help your child is to set yourself as a good example for them. Always praise them even for the smallest achieved goal. Teach them how to persevere and never to give up.
3. Give your child choices. For example, allow them to choose what clothes they want to wear that day or give them two choices for lunch.
4. Discourage your child from attempting to be a perfectionist because your child’s self-esteem would suffer when they realise they can’t be perfect.
5. Don’t go overboard with your praises. Recognise your child’s achievement when recognition is due and praise the effort they put into a certain task. Too much praise actually hurts a child’s confidence.
6. Let your child overhear you complementing them to another adult. That will boost their self-esteem.
7. Take good care of yourself and show your child that you’re important. This will lead to your child doing the same. Teach your children to love and believe in themselves and in their abilities.
We want the very best for our children, so it’s our responsibility to lead our children towards a happier and more fulfilled life.